Women’s empowerment may conjure images of bare-breasted women holding a joint in one hand and the ashes her bra in the other.
But that couldn’t be further from the truth….for most of us. Modern day women’s empowerment is about getting to the root of your own bullshit. It’s about staying in your lane 100% and finally, FINALLY putting yourself in at least the top 3 on your own priority list.
If you’re reading this, you’re probably sick and tired of feeling like you’re the only one who coordinates the world for everyone else.
Others’ schedules, diets and allergies, social lives, obligations, goals and accountability. Their daily lives take up so much space in your daily life that you hardly have time for your own accommodations and aspirations. And a couple hours at the spa can’t undo the damage from the daily barrage.
While you take care of the foundational pieces of their lives they get to focus on their priorities. Where does your wellbeing fall for them? If they don’t give a rats ass about their own home and health then logic holds that your needs fall so far from their radar it might as well be buried with the Titanic.
Your problem is getting enough of the the “have-tos” done so that you can find a kernel of time for some of your “want-tos.” You feel like everyone else gets to do the things THEY want and the magical, bill paying, laundry folding, customer service calling, goal encouraging, yard mowing, grocery budgeting, sweet nothing whispering fucking fairy just happens to take care of every.thing.else.for.them.
At the end of the day…who is there for you?
I am! At least until you learn to tools you need to set and keep healthy boundaries, redefine Self and are able to commit to new patterns and beliefs in your life.
Strong Women Tired Of Putting Themselves Last
need more self-care than a pedicure can supply.
What brings you to tears in the shower is the deep seated fear that this is never, ever going to change because even when the age and stage of the kids changes, or whatever inevitable shift is coming down the pipe, people are still people and who on God’s green earth is going to ever give two craps about you and your struggle when they’re in the midst of theirs?
Aaaannnnd … now you can add ungracious asshole to your self-admonishments for forgetting they’re swimming upstream too.
It’s time to face the fact that your wellbeing is your responsibility.
You’re only ever as good for others as you are for yourself.
**Are you good to you? or for you?**
**Do you prioritize your wellbeing as high as others’? are you even Top 5?**
**Have you even given the people in your life the opportunity to show up for themselves in the first place?**
Women’s lives are never one dimensional.
This truth means that you are forever navigating a course that only you will ever truly feel the truth of. Women’s empowerment isn’t only about gaining the confidence to speak your truth, finding the self worth necessary to set healthy boundaries or even being strong enough to let go of the people and circumstances that don’t serve your highest good. Those are fringe benefits, of course, but they should never be the goal. Manhandling the stuff outside of ourselves, forcing everything else into submission, is an exercise in futility. No.
Women’s empowerment is about going inward. Women’s empowerment is about:
- knowing yourself so well that even in your darkest moments you remember how strong you are.
- exorcising the “me or them” duality from your life and creating “me and them” scenarios instead.
- knowing, building and sharing your power in a way that is sustainable instead of depleting.
- most importantly, women’s empowerment is about loving yourself, others and circumstances SO deeply that you know exactly how to use them all (even the shitty ones) to your advantage.
I’m not here to teach you how to focus on the positive. You already know how to do that and it’s fucking exhausting without the rest of the formula.
I’m here to give you actionable exercises and loving accountability so you can use every stage of life to lift you to your next highest goal. I want you to be able to do what I do when life keeps piling on…kick that garbage underneath you and use it to raise you to new and better heights.