Passion on Purpose

Day 1 ~ Write down 3-5 patterns you have when you take on new challenges.
Day 2 ~ What have you done previously that worked? Why?
Day 3 ~ What have you done that doesn’t work? Why?
Day 4 ~ Have you ever watched someone else succeed during change? Who was it?
Day 5 ~ In the person you identified yesterday what did they do that seemed to work?
Day 6 ~ The pattern you identified yesterday, is that available to you to adopt? If not in whole, are there parts of it?
Day 7 ~ What is the smallest step you could take toward you goal each and every day?
Day 8 ~ When you consider committing to the step(s) you identified yesterday do you notice any resistance? Do you REALLY want what you thought you wanted?

Day   9 ~ What resources do you want/need for your new direction? Which ones can you pull together or commit to?
Day 10 ~ How will you track what works?
Day 11 ~ Who is willing to team up with you (friend, doctor, course, coach, me)?
Day 12 ~ What obstacles can you foresee in yourself, others or your circumstances?
Day 13 ~ What circumstances do you predict will help (journal, music, team)?
Day 14 ~ What can you say to yourself or track that will act as encouragement?
Day 15 ~ What are some minuscule milestones you can identify that feel reachable?
Day 16 ~ What rewards do you plan to use for hitting the milestones you identified yesterday?

Day 17 ~ The resources you identified…get as many of them as you can.
Day 18 ~ Track what works for you. Dismiss the fails. Focus on the wins that will help you recommit when necessary.
Day 19 ~ Assemble your team. Rally that friend, see the doctor, hire me.
Day 20 ~ Print out the plan you created to address predictable obstacles. Visualize the implementation!!
Day 21 ~ Create the circumstances that help success. Create a playlist, carve out that quiet nook, commit to the class.
Day 22 ~ Keep a list of the encouragements you identified and say them…often…out loud…even to others!
Day 23 ~ Schedule out your milestones in your calendar. Visualize reaching them.
Day 24 ~ Use the rewards you identifies for every little success!!

Day 1 ~ As you read the description for this month, what hurtful stories immediately sprang to mind?
Day 2 ~ Which painful stories feel like someone else’s fault? Assign a percentage that is their fault, 100%? 30%?
Day 3 ~ Which painful stories feel like they’re due to circumstances? Assign a percentage.
Day 4 ~ Which painful stories feel like they’re your fault? Assign a percentage.
Day 5 ~ Identify your always/never statements around those hurtful stories. “No one ever listens to me.” “I’m always the strong one. I never get to have the breakdown.”
Day 6 ~ What would you like to be different about your story? (not yourself, others or the circumstances…YOUR story)
Day 7 ~ What would the always/never statements change to with those differences? “Some people listen.” “There have been times when others help me.”

Day 10 ~ Who is safe and available to process your this transformation with?
Day 11 ~ What tools do you have to use, other than the people you identified yesterday, to help you process? Meditation, journaling, me, writing letters?
Day 12 ~ What opportunities do you have to focus on the process? Vacation time, retreat, grief group, bubble bath?
Day 13 ~ Where is forgiveness necessary? Forgiveness = reclamation of energy. In other words, where do you continue to waste energy on this old story? Verbally or mentally retelling it without purpose or consciousness? Avoiding someone outright?
Day 14 ~ Where is grace possible? Where are you, others or your circumstances just simple, wounded, ill-timed participants who are also  just doing their best (even if your/their best doesn’t seem good enough).
Day 15 ~ Where are you easily compassionate? State of being…not just acts.
Day 16 ~ Where will forgiveness, grace and compassion take place in your new story?

Day 19 ~ Who did you identify as a safe person to process this transformation with? Recruit/hire them.
Day 20 ~ Use the tools you identified the Gathering Portion. Journal, meditate, etc.
Day 21 ~ Take that opportunity you have to focus on this process. Enjoy the retreat, vacation, bubble bath…
Day 22 ~ Forgiveness: When you catch your old story start the replay, replace it with your new one. Imagine all that energy that has been spent in the old hurt speeding it’s way back to you.
Day 23 ~ Grace: begin excising grace at every opportunity. ESPECIALLY in the areas where your old story is triggered.
Day 24 ~ Compassion: notice yourself just stop creating stories in general. Everyone is worthy of love … you see that more and their digressions don’t even phase you ….because they’re not about you at all.
Day 25 ~ Notice how often you are playing your new story. Notice it getting stronger. Watch for the evidence that your new story IS, in fact, true. “This person listened, that person listened,” turns into “people DO listen to me.”

Day 1 ~ What are some of your most impactful memories from the past few months?
Day 2 ~ Who have you said, “goodbye” too? Who have you met? Whose relationship has changed (or is in the midst of change)?
Day 3 ~ What have you learned?
Day 4 ~ What are you grieving? What are you celebrating? (Hint: it’s ok, if you’re doing a bit of both)
Day 5 ~ What kind of memories would you like to make in the next several months?
Day 6 ~ What kind of person would you like to meet?
Day 7 ~ What would you like to learn?
Day 8 ~ What kind of change are you willing to make in yourself?

Day   9 ~ What resources do you have available to you to make the memories you’d like to make?
Day 10 ~ Who knows the type of person you’d like to meet?
Day 11 ~ How can you connect to what you want to learn? Physically (like joining a Meetup group) or Personally (like continuous forgiveness work from February)
Day 12 ~ How does it feel to consider the possibilities that arose in the last 3 days? Physically (use your body’s intuition) and emotionally (are new stories arising or can you celebrate the ones that don’t come up anymore?)
Day 13 ~ What are you able and willing to do to make the memories you’ve visualized?
Day 14 ~ Who are you able and willing to meet to make the memories you’ve visualized?
Day 15 ~ What are you able and willing to learn to make the memories you’ve visualized?
Day 16 ~ What are you able and willing to change to make the memories you’ve visualized?

Day 17 ~ Continually visualize the memories you aim to make. Keep them in the forefront of your mind.
Day 18 ~ Ask for that introduction from the person who knows the type of person you’d like to meet.
Day 19 ~ Learn the thing.
Day 20 ~ Every time your trust in this process falters is a time to practice a deeper trust.
Day 21 ~ Do the thing to make the memory.
Day 22 ~ Meet the person who can help you make the memory.
Day 23 ~ Recommit to the learning and practice it takes to grow into the kind of person you want to be.
Day 24 ~ Change the thing.

Day 1 ~ What connotations do I have around the word “nurture?”
Day 2 ~ What else can I make “nurture” mean for me?
Day 3 ~ In what ways do I currently nurture my personal growth?
Day 4 ~ How do the people I love get the nurturing they need for personal growth? Who gives it to them? In what ways?
Day 5 ~ How can I nurture my own personal growth?
Day 6 ~ How am I willing to receive nurturing from others?
Day 7 ~ What stories come up for me as I consider self-nurturing? “Yay, it’s about time!” or “Yeah, but others deserve it more?” or something else entirely?
Day 8 ~ How do I feel when I nurture myself compared to when I nurture others?

Day   9 ~ I defined “nurture” as ________ on Day 1. How do I define it now?
Day 10 ~ Who can I talk to about their thoughts on nurturing?
Day 11 ~ In what ways would I like to nurture my personal growth?
Day 12 ~ Are there ways the people whose personal growth I’ve nurtured might nurture mine in return?
Day 13 ~ Reflect on Day 5. What did I identify and what is the first step I am able and willing to take?
Day 14 ~ Reflect on Day 6. What specific requests am I willing to make of others who may be willing to nurture me?
Day 15 ~ How can I use or change my story about self-nurturing to support my growth?
Day 16 ~ What positive, rewarding associations can I make when I self-nurture?

Day 17 ~ Write down your new definition of nurture and combine it with an intention. For example, “Nurturing is an act of loving kindness that provides the conditions for a person to feel safe while they grow and change. Every day I will nurture myself with at least one of the following practices: 1) saying, ‘no’ w/o needing a good excuse, 2) removing myself from other people’s drama, 3) doing something just for the fun of it.
Commit to this every single day.
Day 18 ~ Schedule a hike or coffee date with the person (people) you identified on Day 10. Show up. Be vulnerable.
Day 19 ~ Reflect on Day 11. Schedule some of those in. Watch for opportunities to practice them in real-time.
Day 20 ~ Reflect on Day 12. Of the people you currently nurture…Ask. Without any expectation of agreement on their part or any outcome at all. Just ask.
Day 21 ~ Reflect on Day 13. Take the step. Again and again and again.
Day 22 ~ Reflect on Day 14. Of anyone else who might be willing or have insight or resources for you…Ask. Without any expectation of agreement on their part or any outcome at all. Just ask.
Day 23 ~ Reflect on Day 15. Practice the changes. Or if there aren’t changes…bring what works to the forefront and do it more often.
Day 24 ~ Reflect on Day 16. Do it. When you ask for what you need…celebrate that as a win (not the outcome). When you said, ‘no’ for no other reason than you didn’t want to do what was asked, celebrate yourself! Count the small wins!!

Day 1 ~ I’ve noticed, after trusting and surrendering to my intuition that I’ve been continually guided to _____________.
Day 2 ~ Are there commonalities between what I’m being guided to now compared to in the past?
Day 3 ~ What are the outcomes of some of my conversations with people? Have the reflected anything back to me that I might’ve missed? (Hint: “The thing about you is _______,” or “You know what you’d be good at?” or “I’ve always thought you should be doing _________.”)
Day 4 ~ I remember when I used to love __________.
Day 5 ~ I always saw myself ______________.  or I thought I’d be doing _____________ by now.
Day 6 ~ What have I found in my recharging process that brings me joy?
Day 7 ~ What have I done for others that seems to solve a problem?
Day 8 ~ What common thread is there in all of my past jobs, hobbies and pastimes?

Day   9 ~ Reflect on Day 1: What do I have in me, of me or around me to help me do more of that?
Day 10 ~ Reflect on Day 2: What do I have that will help me make comparisons? Old journals? Old friends?
Day 11 ~ Reflect on Day 3: Who has said those things and could have some follow up conversations about their insights?
Day 12 ~ Reflect on Day 4: In what ways can I do that thing I used to love again?
Day 13 ~ Reflect on Day 5: Is there anything that can help me marry my previous dreams with my new discoveries? Conferences? Courses? Books? Hobbies? People?
Day 14 ~ Reflect on Day 6: In what ways can I incorporate more of that thing that brings me joy?
Day 15 ~ Reflect on Day 7: Who can I brainstorm with about ways I can help solve that problem for others?
Day 16 ~ Reflect on Day 8: What do I have that will help me see commonalities I may have missed? Old journals? Old friends?

Day 17 ~ Reflect on Day 9: Do more of that.
Day 18 ~ Reflect on Day 10: Use those resources.
Day 19 ~ Reflect on Day 11: Follow up with those people.
Day 20 ~ Reflect on Day 12: Do more of it.
Day 21 ~ Reflect on Day 13: Try some of those things.
Day 22 ~ Reflect on Day 14: Incorporate more of that.
Day 23 ~ Reflect on Day 15: Brainstorm.
Day 24 ~ Reflect on Day 16: Review again and again.

Day 1 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my regular routine?
Day 2 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my career?
Day 3 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my familial relationships?
Day 4 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my friendships?
Day 5 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my personal health?
Day 6 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my education?
Day 7 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my hobbies?
Day 8 ~ Where am I practicing/experimenting/discovering my purpose in my boundaries?

Day   9 ~ Reflect on Day 1: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 10 ~ Reflect on Day 2: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 11 ~ Reflect on Day 3: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 12 ~ Reflect on Day 4: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 13 ~ Reflect on Day 5: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 14 ~ Reflect on Day 6: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 15 ~ Reflect on Day 7: How can you incorporate more of it?
Day 16 ~ Reflect on Day 8: How can you incorporate more of it?

Day 17 ~ Reflect on Day 9: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 18 ~ Reflect on Day 10: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 19 ~ Reflect on Day 11: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 20 ~ Reflect on Day 12: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 21 ~ Reflect on Day 13: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 22 ~ Reflect on Day 14: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 23 ~ Reflect on Day 15: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.
Day 24 ~ Reflect on Day 16: Where you’re ready, willing and able…do it. Where it feels the most playful…do it.  Where you have curiosity…do it.

Day 1 ~ Record an reflect on some of your most meaningful summer memories.
Day 2 ~ Who did you meet this summer?
Day 3 ~ What did you learn?
Day 4 ~ What are you grieving and/or celebrating from the past few months?
Day 5 ~ What kind of memories would you like to make in the next few months?
Day 6 ~ Who would you like to meet?
Day 7 ~ What would you like to learn?
Day 8 ~ What kind of changes to yourself are you willing to make?

Day  9 ~ What resources do you have to help you make memories?
Day 10 ~ Who knows the type of person (or the actual person) you’d like to meet?
Day 11 ~ How can you connect to what you want to learn?
Day 12 ~ How dos it feel to have those resources available to you? or not?
Day 13 ~ What are you willing to do to make memories?
Day 14 ~ What are you willing to do to foster relationships, new and old?
Day 15 ~ What are you willing to do to learn?
Day 16 ~ What are you willing to do to make the changes in yourself that you’ve identified?

Day 17 ~ Make those memories.
Day 18 ~ Ask for the introduction. Or make the introduction for someone else.
Day 19 ~ Sign up for the class, buy the book, schedule the exercises. Treat these like you would commitments for others.
Day 20 ~ Stay present to your process. Each step is a win, Mark it. Remember it. How does that feel?
Day 21 ~ Take note of new inspirations. Connect the dots, enjoy the process.
Day 22 ~ Meet the person you were introduced to. Follow up on any promises made (to make intros, share links, loan books, etc)
Day 23 ~ Show up to class, read the book, do the exercises. Talk about everything you’re learning with others.
Day 24 ~ Count each one of these steps as a RAGING success. Rack up the wins!

Day 1 ~ Where do I (have I) felt relief?
Day 2 ~ Where do I feel gratitude?
Day 3 ~ What has been uncomfortable but still useful? Do I feel grateful for this?
Day 4 ~ What is painful that I can feel grateful for? and why/how?
Day 5 ~ What is scary that I can feel grateful for? and why/how?
Day 6 ~ When I think about being grateful for the uncomfortable, painful & scary where do I have resistance?
Day 7 ~ What are the things I think I “should” be feeling, thinking or doing? How much guilt do I carry as a result of these perceived failings?
Day 8 ~ When I’m feeling truly grateful, where does it show up in my body?

Day   9 ~ What are the circumstances that support relief? “I can only get as far as relief when I _______ (exhausted, neglected, etc).”
Day 10 ~ What are the circumstances that support gratitude? “I really feel it when I _________(focus, talk with a friend, etc).”
Day 11 ~ When something is uncomfortable I can _________ until I feel grateful (or in order to feel grateful)
Day 12 ~ When something is painful I can _________ until I feel grateful (or in order to feel grateful).
Day 13 ~ When something is scary I can ________ until I feel grateful (or in order to feel grateful).
Day 14 ~ Today I will consider how my “yeah, buts” can be “yes, ands.”
Day 15 ~ Today I will replace as many “shoulds” as I can find with “coulds” to remind myself that I get to choose.
Day 16 ~ Other than gratitude itself what brings the physical feeling of gratitude? How can I do more of those things?

Day 17 ~ Create the circumstances you said you needed to feel more than just relief (plenty of rest, attentive relationships, etc)
Day 18 ~ Turn the obvious gifts (nice cashier, no accidents, clean underwear, etc) into grateful moments.
Day 19 ~ When something is uncomfortable, use your plan for making it useful and feeling grateful.
Day 20 ~ When something is painful, use your plan for making it useful and feeling grateful.
Day 21 ~ When something is scary, use your plan for making it useful and feeling grateful.
Day 22 ~ Remember the ideas in your ‘yes, ands” ~ begin using them, saying them, searching for them at every possible “yeah,but”
Day 23 ~ You found your “should” (obligation), you realized they’re actually “could” (choice), get clear on what you “would” do (empowerment) to be in alignment with gratitude.
Day 24 ~ Do the things that create the gratitude feeling … even visualizing to manufacture the feeling in your body will cement the shift.